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Live Shame free, Guilt free, & Blame Free,

Live Guilt Free, Shame Free, Blame Free 

     Growing up, we inevitably all learn to some degree, to feel guilt & shame surrounding our likes & dislikes, our decisions, our thoughts & viewpoints as well as our behaviours & habits. We have learned from teachers, peers & family members, spiritual shepherds & the media, that to live, think or be different from the expectations they & our own unique cultures are relaying to us, is to fail, to fall short of a mark somehow & we begin to be manipulated by these thoughts & start taking on disabling feelings of guilt & shame. 
     Feeling guilty & shameful is a different feeling than we have when we feel sorry for something we may have thoughtlessly said or done, & which draws us to a place of making a situation right with another. Guilt & shame come as relentless, self negating shadows that are seemingly ever with us.
     When guilt & shame become our companions, they implant in us a desire to escape their awful grip. The tendencies to blame others can become an outlet we use to defer these feelings which have settled into our lives. Blaming can become a coping mechanism to make ourselves feel better about the mental & emotional state we find ourselves in. We may begin finding faults with others who don't meet up to the expectations we have of them & the cycle we have unconsciously learned continues to perpetuate itself.
     Falling into being critical or assigning blame to others, causes our focus to become external which leads our view away from ourselves, instead of embracing out own internal existence. The result is not the healing of our own feelings of guilt & shame, but rather a lessening of our self awareness of them because we are focusing on someone else.
   This self created drama we are now playing front & center in, although done completely unaware, moves us toward not just feeling guilty & shameful, but angry & resentful towards ourselves &  others as well.
     If we can take the time to be still & look inward, discovering where these feelings have actually originated, we can begin to make sense of our personal storyline & consciously choose a new way of responding when faced with these feelings. This exploration of our inner landscape in regards to guilt & shamefulness can enable us to begin discarding the old mental programming & constructs & embark on disarming guilt, shame & blame with new patterns of thinking & behaving.
     When we choose gentler, truth based inner responses we will find the kindness we are extending to ourselves will flow outward to others & soften our feelings & expectations towards them as well.
     We break out of the old & into the fresh new beginning we are offered with each moment. The Buddha said," Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most." With mindfulness & the act of lovingly tending to our inner garden where our true selves, our very being resides, we can embark on pulling out the weeds of guilt, shame & blame, changing our outer world & helping others grow & flourish as well. When we begin to chip away at guilt & shame we create less mental, emotional & physical pain for ourselves & inflict less on others & this wonderful world we live on.    Namaste'     Marla Dawn

17 Comments to Live Shame free, Guilt free, & Blame Free,:

Comments RSS writers on June 1, 2018 10:39 AM
Do not take it personally if someone asks you about anything. In friends, these are common things because it comes into jokes and we do it all the time.
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Marla Dawn on May 21, 2019 2:16 PM
I think that being able to step back & not take things personally is a powerful thing to learn. It helps us keep our perspectives clear. Thank you for your feedback.

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Marla Dawn on May 21, 2019 2:13 PM
I'm glad you like it. Thank you for your interaction.

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I think living shame free, blame free and guilt free is impossible. We can live a happy and wealthy life, but that does not exempt us from feeling that we are not doing everything right. We can feel ashamed just for saying the wrong word, we can blame ourselves and be guilty with the simplest thing. That is the way life is supposed to be. That is why, even if we live freely, we should be considerate with our words and action.
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Marla Dawn on May 21, 2019 2:12 PM
Hello, thank you for your perspective. Consideration & kindness in words & deeds are always the seeds of peace & positivity in life.

Lawrence Todd Maxwell on November 24, 2018 12:46 AM
I admire people who keep sharing valuable stories through great writing. I'm glad to have read this blog. Thanks and hope to read more soon.
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Marla Dawn on May 21, 2019 1:52 PM
Thank you Lawrence. I'm looking forward to being able to spend more time attending to this blog & my site. i appreciate your response.

7dollaressay website review on December 26, 2018 3:15 AM
Second with you. I totally agree with all of your points. Thanks for sharing such a helpful and informative post. I really appreciate it.
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Marla Dawn on May 21, 2019 1:41 PM
You're very welcome. Thank you for visiting.

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I don't have any of these feelings. I feel great. Thank you!
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Marla Dawn on May 21, 2019 1:43 PM
I'm glad you are free from this kind of suffering. Wonderful to hear. Thank you for your comment review on March 31, 2019 3:07 AM
Living in the peaceful and very comfortable life means shame free, guilt free and blame free. Stepping no one is a very good and wise decision that every one of us could do. You can go everywhere you want because you are free and safe. Nowadays, if you try to blame someone they will fight you back for doing shaming them. And I know you don’t want someone to shame you. So likewise, do not do unto others what you don’t want to do in you.
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Marla Dawn on May 21, 2019 1:50 PM
This is true. When we realize that we all want the same thing in this life, to be treated with kindness, respect & equality, we can then mirror this to others with our behaviour.. We can learn to see ourselves in others this way & see them in us. Freeing us from bitter fruits. Thank you for visiting & sharing.

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Live Shame free, Guilt free, & Blame Free,
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write essay for me on August 18, 2019 1:45 PM
Thank you so much Love your blog..
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Marla Dawn on October 1, 2019 2:41 AM
You're welcome, I'm glad you enjoyed it.

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